A beautiful saying in Jewish traditions is, “Men can meet, but mountains never.” It means if two people view themselves with humility, they will easily be...
Men Can Meet, but Mountains Never
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Communication
You Don’t Really Want Answers to What You’re Asking
Once, there was a man who lost his keys. He looked for them frantically, and then in desperation cried out, "I just want to know where my keys are!" And a...
“Just”
“Hey, ‘just’ do exactly what I say, and everything will be fine.” “I don’t know why people don’t ‘just’…..” “All you have to do is ‘just’… If you’ve ever been...
You Want Praise, Not Feedback
One of the more fascinating human actions is asking for feedback. People ask frequently, "What do you think of...." But sometimes, what they mean is not...
Unnecessary Protection: How to Deal with Perceived Threats vs. Real Threats
It’s natural to protect ourselves. The world is scary and there are real threats out there. Unfortunately, we spend far more time defending ourselves than we ever really need to do. Let me explain. There is a vast difference between real and perceived threats. Real...
Let’s Talk About Politics and Religion!
Oh no, here we go! “I know, I can scan this article really quickly to find out what side of politics this guy supports and what religion he subscribes to, and then I can determine what I really think of him!” “Don’t talk about religion or politics! You’ll lose...
5 Quick Tips for Handling the Anger You Have Toward Family
Here’s a profound statement: Families don’t always get along. Let’s make that statement more personal: Sometimes your family angers you. The reality is that person after person writes in to my website asking me what to do about anger in regard to family; so I thought...
Ask Dr. Conte: I Think My Lashing Out Has Cost Me My Relationship – What Can I Do?
Dr. Conte, I have a dire situation that has made my relationship crumble. I never opened up to her or told her about my problems – why I was feeling sad, and why I looked angry. I oftentimes lashed out at her. When we wanted to talk things through and find a solution,...
Redefining Tattletale
We teach children that being a tattletale is wrong. As adults, groups ostracize those who oust their own members. Law enforcement officers, prison guards, military members, and athletes operate on unspoken codes that shun those who tell on their fellow members....