For more than twenty years, my tagline has been, “There are two kinds of people in the world: People with issues and dead people.” It’s funny, but it’s true....
How to Help Those Who Don’t Want It
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Why Understanding the Difference Between Advice-Givers and “Demanders” is Vital
There is a great difference between those who give advice and those who demand that their opinions and perspectives be adopted. Advice-givers genuinely offer...
How to Know If Your Confirmation Bias Blinds You
We all think we’re smart. We all think that our perspective is more complete and more insightful than those who disagree with us. And we are all, also,...
Men Can Meet, but Mountains Never
A beautiful saying in Jewish traditions is, “Men can meet, but mountains never.” It means if two people view themselves with humility, they will easily be...
The Prison of Blame
Once there was a prison that did not have any cells, or walls, or fences. The prison was very real, however, and people often remained incarcerated for life. In this place, called, "The Prison of Blame," the inmates constantly concerned themselves with finding others...
The Mirror of My Future Self
Not many people know that I write poetry, and that's because I've only ever shared my poetry with a handful of people. I thought maybe the time was right to share more. Sending everyone who sees this, and everyone who doesn't, much peace. The Mirror of My...
“Just”
“Hey, ‘just’ do exactly what I say, and everything will be fine.” “I don’t know why people don’t ‘just’…..” “All you have to do is ‘just’… If you’ve ever been really angry and someone told you, “Just calm down,” you likely understand that it’s not a “just,” because...
You Want Praise, Not Feedback
One of the more fascinating human actions is asking for feedback. People ask frequently, "What do you think of...." But sometimes, what they mean is not actually, "What do you think?" but instead, "Tell me how this is great from your perspective." Which is funny. But...
What You Can Do: Write Now About the COVID-19 Quarantine
Through the years, research has demonstrated that writing about events can significantly shape the way we experience them. In one study, researchers had people write about a break-up that hurt them. They had the participants write about the break-up for five minutes...