Different pain is tough in different ways, but any way you slice it, pain is difficult to endure - that's why it's called "pain." Most people go to...
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Ask Dr. Conte: How Can I Lose My Anger Before I Lose My Fiancée?
Dr. Conte, How can I stop my anger toward people? I am engaged to my girlfriend and I do not want to lose her – can you please help me? — Colin* Hi Colin, I...
Four Jurors: When Attachment to Our Beliefs Blinds Us to the Truth
I write a lot about attachment and certainty. I’ve been fascinated throughout my career by the way we, as human beings, appear to be certain about what we...
Unnecessary Protection: How to Deal with Perceived Threats vs. Real Threats
It’s natural to protect ourselves. The world is scary and there are real threats out there. Unfortunately, we spend far more time defending ourselves than we...
Look for the Good in What Others Do
Once, a kind woman put a peaceful statue on the street corner to spread kindness to others. One day, a hard rain was coming down, and a poor man who was walking by thought that the statue might get ruined, and he wanted to cover it. Having only a few possessions, he...
Get Your Chariot Unstuck: You Can Do Whatever You Put Your Mind To
A man's chariot went off the road and got stuck in a thick heap of mud. The chariot wouldn't move forward. The man climbed out and looked at it, then prayed to Hercules, a god of strength, for his help. Hercules called down from Olympus, "Why don't you put your...
Redefining Tattletale
We teach children that being a tattletale is wrong. As adults, groups ostracize those who oust their own members. Law enforcement officers, prison guards, military members, and athletes operate on unspoken codes that shun those who tell on their fellow members....
Work Like A Hollywood Studio
I’ve had an opportunity to host a couple reality TV shows over the past few years, and one of the things that most impresses me about Hollywood is the work ethic of production companies. On a Hollywood set, if something goes wrong, people don’t spend a whole lot of...
A Jar of Marbles: The Impact of Our Environment
A man filled a jar with marbles, and once the jar was filled, he turned around in the other direction. When he looked back and saw that the jar was filled with marbles, he got angry and shouted, “Why is this jar filled with marbles? I don’t understand it!” Of course,...