If you want to shed the anger you have toward others for slighting you, then consider taking some time to reflect on all the slights you’ve caused others....
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Comparative Beauty and Belief
If you still believe some of the same things you did when you were young, do you ever think: "Is it weird that I was born into a family and cultural tradition...
Why You Hate Others and They Hate You
Democrats hate Republicans. Republicans hate Democrats. The political hate the apolitical and vice versa. The religious hate atheists. Atheists hate the...
Ask Dr. Conte: How Can I Fix Relationships Broken by My Domestic Violence Arrest?
Hi Dr. Conte, I was recently arrested for 4th degree domestic assault (first offense). I have no court date as of yet, and I was wondering if there are any...
Climbers and Riders
Different pain is tough in different ways, but any way you slice it, pain is difficult to endure - that's why it's called "pain." Most people go to significant lengths to avoid pain. From playing games in relationships to getting lost in escapes, to avoiding the type...
Ask Dr. Conte: How Can I Lose My Anger Before I Lose My Fiancée?
Dr. Conte, How can I stop my anger toward people? I am engaged to my girlfriend and I do not want to lose her – can you please help me? — Colin* Hi Colin, I can hear the desperation in your voice, even in only a one line question. And although anger is vague and your...
Four Jurors: When Attachment to Our Beliefs Blinds Us to the Truth
I write a lot about attachment and certainty. I’ve been fascinated throughout my career by the way we, as human beings, appear to be certain about what we know, despite research, anecdotal evidence, and personal experience telling us otherwise. I recently sat down...
Unnecessary Protection: How to Deal with Perceived Threats vs. Real Threats
It’s natural to protect ourselves. The world is scary and there are real threats out there. Unfortunately, we spend far more time defending ourselves than we ever really need to do. Let me explain. There is a vast difference between real and perceived threats. Real...
Let’s Talk About Politics and Religion!
Oh no, here we go! “I know, I can scan this article really quickly to find out what side of politics this guy supports and what religion he subscribes to, and then I can determine what I really think of him!” “Don’t talk about religion or politics! You’ll lose...