Many people have come to me or written to me over the years asking for help on how they can let go of a grudge they have. Recently I worked with a man who has...
5-Step Process for Letting Go of Grudges
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Emotions
What’s right is right
A man struggled with anger significantly. All his life he was angry. One day, he went to a Zen master who told him to go out to the place by the old, withered...
How to Know If Your Confirmation Bias Blinds You
We all think we’re smart. We all think that our perspective is more complete and more insightful than those who disagree with us. And we are all, also,...
You Want Praise, Not Feedback
One of the more fascinating human actions is asking for feedback. People ask frequently, "What do you think of...." But sometimes, what they mean is not...
What You Can Do: Write Now About the COVID-19 Quarantine
Through the years, research has demonstrated that writing about events can significantly shape the way we experience them. In one study, researchers had people write about a break-up that hurt them. They had the participants write about the break-up for five minutes...
Master Craftsmen
There once was a sword-maker who wanted to be known as the greatest craftsman of his time. To that end, he demanded that people see what he was making. “How will people know my greatness unless they watch me work?” he thought. And so as soon as he would start working...
Letting Go of Anger
If you want to shed the anger you have toward others for slighting you, then consider taking some time to reflect on all the slights you’ve caused others. Humility transforms self-righteousness. We have a tendency to minimize the pain we cause others and maximize the...
Why You Hate Others and They Hate You
Democrats hate Republicans. Republicans hate Democrats. The political hate the apolitical and vice versa. The religious hate atheists. Atheists hate the religious. Even among the religious, the opposing religions hate each other. Gang members hate members from others...
Ask Dr. Conte: What Are the Next Steps to Letting Go of My Anger?
Dr Conte: Today was the first day I googled the phrase "anger management." After reading several articles on the topic, I came across your short video on YouTube: "Dr. Conte: Anger Management Technique: Getting Angry Without Knowing Why." It was so simple and yet...