When we learn to see the invisible pain in others, it changes the way we approach them.
Many people have come to me or written to me over the years asking for help on how they can let go of a grudge they have. Recently I worked with a man who has held a grudge for a person he deemed "wronged" him over a decade ago. I was impressed with his...
A man struggled with anger significantly. All his life he was angry. One day, he went to a Zen master who told him to go out to the place by the old, withered tree, a place where weary travelers passed, and offer water to those who came by. He did this, and through...
We all think we’re smart. We all think that our perspective is more complete and more insightful than those who disagree with us. And we are all, also, subject to confirmation bias. Confirmation bias is the tendency to look for information that confirms what we...
One of the more fascinating human actions is asking for feedback. People ask frequently, "What do you think of...." But sometimes, what they mean is not actually, "What do you think?" but instead, "Tell me how this is great from your perspective." Which is funny. But...